Who is this blog written for?
- This blog is written for everyone who wants to get married but would rather not get divorced at some point (60% of couples divorce.)
- This blog is written for those who have already gotten married and would prefer to have a really happy relationship rather than have to survive a heart-breaking day-to-day grind (80% of couples report having a miserable marriage relationship.)
- This blog is written for those who have already been chewed up and spit out by marriage and are still trying to figure out why, so they can someday re-marry and experience marital bliss.
- This blog is for those who want to be fully realistic and emotionally intelligent about the challenges inherent to marriage rather than living in the “Happily Ever After” dream world of how marriage is presented in both cultural myth and childhood imaginations.
- This blog is for those who are willing to ask the important and necessary questions so they are prepared to be the best possible spouse for as long as they shall live.
- This blog is also for me so I can read it and remember not to be an idiot to my wife.
In the pages that follow, I will give you solid tools and awesome questions to help those preparing for a new marriage, and also to provide real hope for those who find themselves in an “old” marriage, which needs a rebuild or a restoration.
So, single people, daters, engaged ring-wearers and married folks at every stage of the relationship business, read on. I am not Dr. Phil so this might get weird, but so does marriage and this blog will help you do better than you would without it.
Let’s begin with a few facts before we launch into this read.
Fact #1: Of the two million couples that will get married in the U.S. this year, almost all of those polled report that they are “more in love than they have ever been” and are “positive about their decision to marry.”
Fact #2: Of those two million couples, almost all of them “expect” to be happily married to their spouse for the rest of their lives. (In other words, not many couples predict an imminent marital decline as they are saying or preparing to say “I Do.”)
Fact #3: Hardly anyone gets married just so they can experience divorce. (Divorce is not on most Bucket Lists.)
**With these three facts in mind, one has to wonder why so many people who boldly proclaim “I Do” quickly become those who start screaming, “I Do Not.” Honestly, how does mind-blowing love and togetherness transform into iPad-throwing hate and separation?
Maybe the better question for this relationship blog is this:
What can you do to make sure these things do not happen to you?
We shall attempt to answer with brevity and brilliance.